Sex is nowadays broadly a performance. In our society sex is advertised and treated socially as a fun, lightweight matter. It is expected to be enjoyed as casually as any other primitive need as thirst or hunger, by individuals or by the way that society portrays and sells sex. I have never felt fitted in this approach. I grew up imagining that sex was a spiritual connection and discovered late in my teenagehood the physical reality of it. This realization was a personal shock, and later the practice was disappointing. The reality was that intercourses without connection doesn’t feel vital to me. Truth is, it disgusted me. So what was all the excitement about? Nonetheless, love and emotional bounding allows me to overcome repulsion. I have grown accepting that my take on sex was probably a minority, and that I will have to adapt to my partners my entire life. Only as a young adult I have understood that every take on sexuality should be valid as long as they are understood by others and yourself, and respectfully communicated. This emotional approach to sex is unfortunately often taken as naïve, weird, unexperienced, or as a woman’s sensitivity. I’d like to allow the audience, despite what their own relationship to sex is, to grasp a piece of what living in a sexualised society feels like for someone who doesn’t find sex as appealing. With ‘Red’ I want to browse this theme I have a complex relationship with through a mother-daughter relationship, a topic that I am equally familiar with. I’d like to portray an approach to sex that is undemocratized, without condemning the other extreme. Enjoying sex and craving it in its animal form is as natural and shouldn’t be judged either. Women who enjoy casual sex are not whores, and women who crave emotional connection are not naïve.
